Hiding in Plain Sight

Child molesters and pedophiles are good at hiding their sexual desires for children. They are so good at it, that they don’t have to hide anymore. They live, work, and play with children out in the open where everyone can see them. They look and act just like everyone else. They laugh at us because they know we don’t have a clue when it comes to knowing who they are, and how they manipulate us. Here’s a quote from a well known pedophile on that subject:

"If they want a war, we'll give them one. They may have numerical superiority, but we're invisible. We'll be sitting in on their strategy sessions while they're still trying to figure out who the hell we are." - Dylan Thomas, admitted pedophile

Well, that’s going to stop right now. I’m going to tell you and show you what these predators do, and how they do it.

The hardest part will be for you to take the first step and accept that there really are people out there that are like this. I’ve always said there really are monsters out there, and the scary part is that they look just like you and me.

Molesters are liars. They create an image or personality that they know you will be attracted to. They become your friend, and get you to like them and trust them. Then they get your kids alone. They know that you will not suspect them of anything because you think they are safe, and the last person that would harm your children.

This is called grooming. It’s manipulation, it’s deception, trickery, and deceit. It is planned out very carefully, and it is all a lie to get you to trust them.

Child predators have specific types of children that they prefer. They also have certain types of parents that they target. They will test you as a parent to see how far you will let them go. If you get suspicious, they will back off for a little while. Then, they will continue to target you and your children.

You have to be willing to look at those you know, love, and trust, and ask yourself if they are child predators.

You don’t think your own friends or even family members could be child molesters? Well, let’s hope not. But remember, if your child is molested, there’s an 85-95% chance that it was done by someone you know, or someone your child knows.

Here are quotes from a pedophile forum that show the child predators ideas on coaching and using it to be near children:

“JE” wants to know if it’s ok for him to take up coaching a girl’s soccer team so he can get closer to girls:

“I'm looking at the possibility of coaching teenage girls in a particular sport a couple of times per week. the thing is I'm a little afraid of other people thinking I am suspicious all though I only want to hang around them and socialize. I think soccer is probably a good one cause a lot of blokes play it and it looks less sus, even if your teaching young woman.”

“Tamachan” brags about how he got “close to” an 11 year old girl that he was in love with:

“People see what they want to. You really can't control what they think, unless you do something so out there that it can't be explained any other way. But generally, people won't think things are off unless you give them a reason.

Case in point, I ended up becoming close with one girl's whole family through working at an after-school program. I babysat for this girl and her brother a few times…The girls dad is a big guy, and could snap me in half like a twig if he ever found out that I was in love with his daughter when she was 11 years old, but I am sure the thought never crossed his mind.”

Blue Heaven still runs with his old grade school track team at their practices. He brags about how the coaches aren’t even suspicious of him, even though he’s there to “sight see”.

Child molesters hide in plain sight. They will test you. They will push you to see how far you will let them go. It’s time to start pushing back. If someone does something that makes you feel uncomfortable, tell them not to do it. They may look at you and wonder why you want them to stop, but if they are a child molester, they will know exactly why you want them to stop. Child molesters will not only refuse to stop a behavior when you ask them to, they will also accuse you of making them look bad. They will also attack you and try to make you feel and look like the bad guy. Don’t let that happen. Stand your ground. You aren’t accusing someone of inappropriate behavior. You are asking someone to stop a behavior that you don’t like. If this person is not a molester, then they will respect your feelings and comply.

I’m not pointing fingers at people who work with children. I’m merely pointing out that pedophiles and child molesters will be attracted to jobs where they can work with children. There’s nothing wrong with an adult coaching a soccer team or babysitting for friends. There is something wrong with an adult crossing the line and exhibiting inappropriate behavior. It’s not ok to get physical with children. It’s not ok to single out children, and spend large amounts of time alone with them, or give them special treats and do special favors.

It’s time to stop the child predators. It’s time to start pushing back.

Read all of our grooming articles here.

Check List: How to Spot a Child Predator or Child Molester

You need to be aware of the following...

~ A person who is very helpful or alluring

~ A person who exhibits peer-like play

~ A person who has no adult friends and will spend time with children rather than adults

~ A person who plays tickling games and roughhouses/dog piles with kids

~ A person who is immediately accepted into the family

~ A person who refuses to honor boundaries set by you or by society in general

These are all signs of grooming that child predators will use on you, your family, and on entire communities. There is no way to know for sure if someone is a child molester until they have violated a child. Therefore, you cannot accuse someone based on this information. Instead, you can use this as a tool to screen out high risk people, and to keep them away from your children.

A person who is very helpful or alluring:

By alluring we mean they are so enticing, flattering, and well loved, that it's like a seduction. They suck you in and manipulate you into unconditional trust without you even realizing it.

This is someone who offers help without asking for anything in return. They already have a price in mind- your child. Inside, they hate you. But on the outside, they become whatever it is you want or need. They want you to like them and trust them so that when they rape your child, you won’t suspect a thing.

A person who exhibits peer-like play:

Ever hear someone described as “just another big kid”? That’s fine, as long as they are able to switch back to an adult rather than staying in the “kid” mode continuously. Child molesters think of children as their peers. They see them in terms of sexual attraction, not cuteness.

A person who has no adult friends and will spend time with children rather than adults:

We all have friends and even acquaintances that we talk with on a regular basis. Child predators devote all of their time to children. Their entire lives revolve around children. They continue babysitting, and often prefer activities and jobs that involve children like mentoring for children’s organizations, coaching, teaching, camp counselors, etc. They will often choose these activities over socializing with their adult peers. There's nothing wrong with jobs and activities that revolve around children, but when an adult chooses children over nearly all adult activities, they are high risk.

For example, there is a party at a friends house. "Bob" offers to watch the children for everyone, rather than attend the party. He has a good excuse of course, but he always seems to spend his time with children rather than adults.

A person who plays tickling games and roughhouses/dog piles with kids:

When interviewed, convicted child molesters describe how they use tickling to desensitize children to sexual touch, and to push the boundaries of acceptable behavior in front of the parents. Is it alright for Grandpa to tickle his grandchild and laugh with him/her? Yes, of course it is. But it’s not appropriate for a grown man or woman to “dog pile” with several young children. It’s also not appropriate for an adult to get physically personal with your children by tickling and touching.

A person who is immediately accepted into the family:

Being accepted into a family situation should take time and trust. Child predators are skilled at manipulating adults into accepting them. Stop and take a look at any situation where a stranger, who approaches your family or child, immediately gains your complete trust and acceptance.

A person who refuses to honor boundaries set by you or by society in general:

He might touch children’s bottoms when pushing them on the swings, or tickle and touch inappropriately. He might find ways to be alone with your child for long periods of time. He might give your child gifts and convince your child that they need to spend more time alone together.

Anyone who crosses the line, and does something to make you or your child uncomfortable, should be setting off alarms. He will use excuses that make him appear to be helping your child, or concerned for your child. Excuses such as helping with homework, or practicing baseball, etc.

Often when confronted, the predator will go on the attack and be offended that you accused him. He may accuse you of being inappropriate. Then he will continue the abuse.

Child molestation has reached epidemic proportions. 25-33% of children continue to be molested. 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before their 18th birthdays. What we are doing now, is not working. It’s time to change that. The time for looking the other way has come to an end.

Arm yourself with information so that you can help to stop the child predators from getting their hands on another victim. Remember, 95% of all child molestation is done by someone the child and/or family knows, not by strangers. Child predators do not want you to know what they do and how they manipulate you into trusting them. Don’t let that happen. Do something to stop it. Do something to make a difference and to keep our children safe.

Go read all of our grooming articles here

We Have an Obligation to Protect the Innocent

We have an obligation to protect the innocent. We must stand between those who need our protection and those who would do them harm.

It's time to stand up and make a difference. It's time to stop the child predators by taking the victims away from them. It will take all of us working together to stop the madness.

Pedophiles are predators- Predators that can spend weeks, months, or even years grooming their victims and their families. You hear about it on the news. The child molester befriended a family. He gained their trust. Then, when he raped their children, the parents never suspected anything.

Over 95 percent of child molesters are typically well loved by those around them. They become whatever you want them to be in order to fit in and be accepted by you. Their goal is to control you. Don't let them.

You can make a difference. You can do this. We can all do this. Our children are depending on us to keep them safe. Don't let them be betrayed by someone that you trust.

Go read our Grooming Articles and arm yourself with the information to help you to stop the monsters. Stand up and make a difference. Stand between the monsters and the innocent.

Ordinary people, even weak people, can do extraordinary things through temporary courage generated by a situation. But the person of character does not need the situation to generate his courage. It is a part of his being and a standard approach to all life's challenges. ~ Michael S. Josephson

The Time for Looking the Other Way Has Come to an End

It’s Time to Make a Difference

I’m here to tell you the truth. The truth is, there are monsters out there. They want to rape our kids. The truth is ugly and brutal. I will not stand by, and let these monsters carry on without any type of accountability. You need to be aware of these monsters. You need to know what they do and how they do it. It starts here, and it starts now.

As parents, we are in charge of our kids. We are the ones who have to keep them safe. We cannot put that responsibility onto the child. A child cannot mentally or physically fight a predator. That does not mean that they should not be educated. It just means that the time for looking the other way has come to an end.

Just look down at your child or grandchild. Take a good look. What would you do to protect them? Anything, right? Well, now is the time to start educating yourself. Knowledge is power.

Start with reading our Grooming Articles. Then…

Talk about it:

Stop being embarrassed or afraid to say the words, “molestation”, or “sex”, or “child molester” or “pedophile” or “child predator”. Use them, and think of them. Let your child know that it’s ok to say those words too. I’m not saying it’s ok to accuse or label someone; I’m saying society is afraid to talk about taboo subjects. It gives the power to the predators. If you are hesitant to use those words, then you won’t talk about it. Talking about it means the subject is no longer taboo, and it takes the power away from the predators.

Be Brave:

At first you will stand out and draw attention. That’s good. You want others to listen to you when you talk about child predators. Know this: If your child is molested, there’s a 85-95% chance that is was done by someone you know or someone your child knows. You need to be brave enough to look at those you know, love, and trust, and think, “is he/she a child predator?” You need to do this before it’s too late- before they get their hands on your child.

Use your knowledge:

Use your knowledge to keep your kids safe. If you see someone using grooming behaviors, stop them by preventing them from controlling the situation. Don’t let them get what they want just to be polite. If you see inappropriate behavior, say something. That’s right, speak up and point it out and make that person stop. Look them in the eye and let them know that you know exactly what they are doing and that you will not tolerate it.

Share the Knowledge:

Share the information about grooming and child predators with everyone. This is how we will stop them. If everyone knew what to look for, then there would be a lot less victims out there.

As I said before, 2008 will be a turning point in the fight against child predators and in strengthening public awareness. It starts here and now, and it starts with you. You CAN make a difference. By making a difference, you can help save a child from rape, torture, and even death. Don’t let the predators get away with hurting our children. They hide and lie because they know that people don’t want to face the truth. The time for looking the other way has come to an end. Please help me to tell the truth to everyone. Please help me to stop the monsters.

Sues on Blog Talk Radio- TAAP

Tune in Friday, February 29, 2008 at 8am (Pacific time) for a Blog Talk Radio show about how to recognize grooming in a child predator. Go here for information.

Feel free to call in for discussion and/or questions. If you can't tune in, then you can listen to the show anytime afterward.

TAAP: Take Action Against Predators is a new BTR show hosted by Sunny and Kiki. Their first introductory show will be Monday, February 25th. Tune in and check it out.

Child Molesters, Pedophiles, and Child Predators: How to Protect Your Children

Child predators are very difficult to detect. They are good at hiding. Their entire life is fake, a lie. They lie everyday of their lives. They use deception to cover up what they really are- predators hunting children.

Most child molesters begin hunting children with deception, lies, and manipulation, not with violence. They work very hard to make you like them because they know that it will make it difficult for you to believe they are molesting or raping your child.

Their lies and deception are difficult or impossible to detect either because they are so practiced at lying, or because they convince themselves they are not doing harm, or because they enjoy lying.

They are practiced liars. Looking for signs of lies does not work. Looking down/away or fidgeting are well known supposed signs of lying, so child molesters won’t do that. Instead, they will use direct eye contact when talking to you because they know it will make most people think that they are telling the truth.

Child molesters don’t show or feel guilt when they lie. They often convince themselves that what they do to children is not wrong or harmful. Telling themselves that children should be free to have sex, or that they really like it, or even that they deserve whatever is done to them, are ways the molester justifies their brutality.

Psychopaths are a different breed all together. They actually enjoy lying. They get a thrill out of it, and will lie any chance they get, even if there is nothing to gain by doing it. They lie for the joy of lying and being able to fool someone.

Liars will commonly evade an issue rather than outright lying. You should pay careful attention to what people say instead of what they are implying. We often anticipate what we think people are going to say, and then fill in the rest in our heads. Although most child molesters will directly lie if pushed hard enough, they start by objecting to the question, or answering the question with a question, or saying things like, “I can’t believe you think I did that.” In other words, they will avoid outright answering a question or accusation.

Stopping Child Predators:

Since it is so hard to tell if child molesters are lying, the best way to stop them and protect your children is to avoid high risk people, high risk situations, and to look for signs of grooming.

Look for and put a stop to common signs of grooming:

• Singling out your child or taking them away from a group

• Unnecessary and inappropriate touching

• Special favors, gifts, or attention

• Taking your child on trips or extra activities

• Trying to spend extra time with your child outside of the appropriate activities

Avoid high risk people and situations. A man with no adult friends or spouse, who spends most or all of his time with children or youth activities, is high risk. If they don’t have children of their own, or children in the age group they are spending time with, be suspicious.

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Joe is a nice young man. He’s single with no kids of his own. He appears to have no friends his own age. He always hangs out with the neighborhood kids. He's usually with kids who are 12 years old and younger. The kids get along great with him, and look up to him. He even has them over to his house to go swimming. He often babysits for a couple of the families in the neighborhood for free. There was a block party a couple of months ago and everyone was there. Joe spent his time with all of the children instead of with any of the adults.

He just offered to take the neighborhood boys to a movie down the street. He wants to know if your 10 year old son can go too.

Should you let your son go to the movie? NO

Should you let your son spend time with this man? NO

This man is high risk, and therefore he should be avoided, and your son should not be with him. That does not mean that you should be rude to him or accuse him of anything. It simply means that he should be avoided like the plague.

Be warned. Child molesters and pedophiles are predators. They will ask you if your child can participate in an activity in front of your child. They do this on purpose. They want you to have to make an immediate decision. If you say no, then you disappoint your child, and you become the bad guy. They are predators hunting their prey. They know they have a better chance of getting their hands (and other body parts) on your child if your child is present when they ask you these questions.

You need to be with your child. I know we are all busy, but the best way to deter a child predator is to spend time with your child. Go to their activities, their baseball practices, as well as the games. Don’t just drop them off. If you are there, then you send a message to predators that your child is off limits and that you are watching. Molesters look for easy targets. They look for something that is missing or needed. Then they become what is needed and fill the void. If you are with your child, then the predator will move on and find another child to victimize.

Read all of our Grooming Articles here.

Check back, there’s more grooming information coming soon.

Real Life Grooming- Elementary Teacher Grooms Student for Over 2 Years

Elementary Teacher Charged with Child Rape

YAKIMA -- A Wapato elementary teacher was in court Monday charged with several counts of child rape and child molestation just days after one of his students told police they had been having a sexual relationship for more than a year.

Adams Elementary teacher Jesus Barcena could face a maximum of life in prison if found guilty of raping one of his fifth grade students.

The student told her mother about the allegations. Barcenas was arrested last week.

Police say Barcenas began molesting the girl last fall just a few weeks after her 11th birthday. She claims her teacher would touch and "french kiss" her in his classroom.

Court papers also claim the 26-year-old groomed her for years.

They became friends during an after school program when she was in 3rd grade.

"I just thought, 'wow,'" said the alleged victim's neighbor Jocelyn Galindo. "I never thought nothing like that would happen, especially in our neighbors."

The teacher not only had access to the girl through his classroom, police say he also began dating the alleged victim's mother, and even moved in to their home this past summer.

"They just seemed like normal little girls and stuff," said Galindo, who claimed the alleged victim has younger sisters.

But if the allegations are true, it was hardly a normal childhood for the girl who is now 12.

She told police Barcenas and her had sex several times while they lived under the same roof, including once in her mother's bedroom.

The victim also told investigators she believed Barcenas "brainwashed" her into thinking sex was OK with him.
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We've told you before about grooming and how child predators manipulate their victims into trusting them. This child molester groomed this little girl from the time she was in the third grade.

The victim says he "brainwashed" her. - Grooming.

The molester created a relationship with the victim's mother in order to gain access to her. - Grooming.

Gaining the family and neighborhood's trust allows the molester to appear normal while he rapes and hurts children. - Grooming.

See our Grooming Articles Here - and arm yourself with information that will help you to identify child predators and protect your children.

Sues on Blog Talk Radio with Political Pistachio

I had the privilege of being a guest on the Political Pistachio Blog Talk Radio show yesterday evening.

I just wanted to say thank you to Doug and Mrs. Pistachio for inviting me on their show. You are both awesome. And a big thank you goes out to everyone who called in (Phil, the Loon, and Loki) and listens in to this show.

I am truly humbled by your praise and support. Together we can all make a difference. We need to increase awareness and help educate everyone about child predators. The predators have had the advantage for far too long. It's past time to change that.

Here's the link to the show

Child Predators- How Do You Really Know?

I’m often asked, “How can I spot a child predator, pedophile, or child molester? How do I really know?”

After reading our Grooming Articles, you’ll have some really great information at your fingertips that will help you recognize the behaviors of these predators.

Education really is the key to preventing these monsters from gaining access to our children. These guys rely on you NOT knowing how they operate and act. Our goal is to stop that from happening.

So how do you really know if someone is a threat? The problem is, you don’t. You can suspect, deter, and prevent, but you may never really know. Child predators are master manipulators and expert liars. They befriend the parents only so they can access their children.

You can’t point your finger at everyone who fits the profile of a child predator. But you can trust your instincts and your gut. If it feels wrong, or if someone is suspicious, then keep them away from your children. Keeping your kids safe does not require labeling someone as a pedophile.

80-95% of all child abuse goes unreported. Children do not feel comfortable talking about abuse. Predators use this and will groom the child and manipulate them into not reporting it. It is not unusual for the child to develop feelings for the predator, and to want their approval. They will give up their ability to tell good from bad. This will end up justifying the molester’s behavior. Children are vulnerable and not physically capable of stopping abuse. Parents need to be the barrier that protects the children from predators.

Remember, in most cases, either the child or the parent knows the abuser. Don’t accept inappropriate behavior from anyone. Ever. Do not be confused by charm, intimidation, or justification. Don’t let others control the situation or cross the line of acceptable behavior. Learning to say “no” in a polite but assertive manner will not hinder friendships. It will, however, deter molesters. Child molesters will not waste their time on parents who refuse to accept their charm.

Predators have had the advantage for far too long. It’s time that we all stand up and do something to stop them.

Read all of our Grooming Articles here.

Not With My Child

With the Special Report airing on FOX News Thursday, I'm putting this post back up at the top so parents can read about predators and the threat they pose...

How to protect your child from predators

Child predators do not want you to know this information. They have a specific way of targeting not only your children, but you as parents as well. They operate in a specific pattern and rarely deviate from it. By learning how they work, you can recognize them and stop them from harming your children.

Remember, molesters are predators. They stalk and hunt our children. We want you to know what they do and how they do it so that you can arm yourself with knowledge.

Child molesters do something called grooming. Grooming is how a predator develops a friendship with the child, creating a bond, preparing them for sexual assault. Predators start by choosing the parents. They will push the boundaries of acceptable behavior to test parents and see if they can take advantage of them. They literally seduce the parents into allowing them access to their children. By charming parents and gaining their trust, the predator gains access to the family and is not suspected of inappropriate behavior.

Molesters are liars. They lie because they can and because their victims want to believe them. They create a false image within a community. By ‘charming’ the adults to believe they are a good and decent person, they have created protection for themselves if they are ever accused. This is called image management. It is planned out very carefully, and it is all a lie to get you to trust them.

Don’t give these monsters power over you by accepting their lies. They rely on the embarrassment of talking about child molestation. They know that most people won’t bring the subject up. They use this to their advantage. Don’t let them.

A child molester can be anyone- man or woman, married or single. Just because a man has sex with his wife, doesn’t mean he won’t try to have sex with a child. Because these predators vary in appearance, you must look closely at their behavior in order to recognize them for what they are.

After a molester is exposed, it is common for adults to say things like, “He was the last guy I would suspect to do something like this.” Molesters become friends to adults, helping them out, being friendly and nice, and just doing things that friends would do. They don’t do this out of kindness; they do this to get to your children.

Once a molester is confronted, they will not only continue to abuse, but they will become defensive to the point of threatening the accuser. This is where the image management comes in to play. By creating an untarnished image, the predator has convinced the community that he is innocent and the accuser (victim) is lying and trying to destroy his pristine image.

Most molestation’s are ‘explained away’ with excuses. Knowing these excuses can help you recognize how these predators operate.

Misunderstanding-

“She was trying to put on her bathing suit and needed help.”
“He complained of being sore. I was just checking him to make sure he was ok.”

Medical Reasons-

“He felt like he had a temperature. I was just checking him. I wasn’t doing anything wrong.”

Deferring the Blame-

“Her parents never did like me. They are just saying these horrible things about me to keep me away from my children.”

Personal Hygiene-

“I was giving him a bath. No, 8 years old is not too old to need help with a bath.”

Sex Education-

“She was just curious and asked me some questions. I was explaining the birds and the bees.”

How can you protect your children?

Talk to your kids - Parents are one of the single most effective tools in the fight against child sexual abuse. This may be an uncomfortable subject, but remember, you aren’t talking about sex, you’re talking about personal safety. You can use other safety issues as a ‘lead in’ to this topic.

Read to your kids – Sit down and read about safety. We have a couple of books on our side bar, or you can choose some of your own. You don’t even need a book. Set time aside to sit down and have a discussion.

Listen to your kids – Dictating, preaching, demanding, are all negative ways to talk to your kids. Even very young children need to be able to tell you their feelings, thoughts and fears. Make sure that you take the time to listen to your children.

Teach your kids – Teach them to trust their own feelings and instincts. Tell them it’s ok to say “no” and to be rude to people in order to protect themselves. Teach them about “good touch, bad touch”. Bad touch is where their bathing suit covers them. Make sure your children know to tell you if something does happen or even if someone makes them feel uncomfortable. Keeping secrets is not only wrong, but dangerous. If you don’t teach these things to your children, then you are leaving them open for the predators to teach them whatever they want.

Watch your kids – Keep a watchful eye on your children. Kids get distracted and often don’t think about dangers until it’s too late. Know where your kids are, what they are doing, and who they are doing it with at all times.

See all of our grooming articles here.

Arm yourself with the knowledge you need to protect your children. Then share this knowledge with everyone else.

Pedophile Grooms Girl Online

It began with an apparently innocent "Hi" popping up on the young girl's computer screen.

It blossomed into a whirlwind online romance between the 14-year-old girl and a person she thought was a teenage boy.

Then it descended into a hell of sexual abuse at the hands of one of the country's most conniving predators.

The Year 8 student from a Melbourne girls' school would pass hours in her room on school projects and messaging her friends on the MSN network.

One Friday night, when her home was abuzz with familial activity, the victim found a new Internet friend wanting to talk.

Behind the words flickering on the girl's screen sat flabby, 34-year-old pedophile Bram Henderson.

Online, he was teen hunk "John'', who complimented the girl on her profile photo.

During the intense conversations that followed, the pedophile used multiple characters and an emotional arsenal of flattery, trickery, threats and guilt to manipulate the girl.

What happened over the course of the next few weeks was every parent's worst nightmare.

Using youthful abbreviations such as LOL (laugh out loud), DW (don't worry), kewl (cool), LMAO (laugh my ass off) and *S* (smile), he won her trust within five minutes of contact.

Within 10 minutes, Henderson was asking the girl where she went to school. Within 20, he was trying to meet her.

John, the 17-year-old bad boy with a heart of gold and a handsome online photo, was just one of three identities Henderson used to entrap his victim.

The troubled but romantic teen character said he was down from Sydney and didn't know many people, while dropping names of the girl's online friends.

He sent her poetry he claimed to have written and told her she was the most beautiful girl he'd ever seen.

The girl was flattered by the attention from the charming, muscular teen, saying boys didn't usually take an interest in her.

Their first chat lasted six hours. Their daily conversations ran for three months and filled more than 300 screen pages.

As hours and hours of talking passed, flirting escalated to exchanging elaborate, invented sex stories.

When the intense online relationship was only days old, the pair exchanged virtual kisses and pledged their love to each other.

Soon the pedophile had the girl's mobile number but was careful never to part with his own contact details.

He pestered the girl more than 100 times for further photos of herself, with the requests becoming increasingly explicit.

When the girl refused or stalled, he said she had betrayed his trust. When she complied with the sick requests, he praised her and pledged undying love.

As the danger to the girl intensified, friends warned her the boyfriend she had never met could be an Internet pedophile.

But "John'' managed to persuade her that his accusers were flirts that he rejected online.

A new Internet character, Larry, was introduced as John's best friend from Sydney, and a story was concocted that eventually luredthe girl to meet Henderson.

The 14-year-old met the pedophile, posing as a fictional boyfriend's boss several times at a number of display homes where she was taken advantage of.

Caught up in Henderson's sick world, the young victim posted: "I don't like my thoughts any more.''

After tip-offs from the girl's concerned friends, police caught Henderson meeting the girl.

He is now serving a minimum of six years' jail - with no Internet access.

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Pedophiles Groom Parents Too

We’ve told you before in our Grooming Articles that pedophiles not only groom their victims, but the parents and entire communities as well. We’ve tried to convey how sick and twisted and evil these monsters really are. Well, here’s a recent letter posted by a well known pedophile who calls himself “Blue Heaven” (BH). It’s addressed to the parents of his “lgf” or ‘Little Girl Friend’.

BH tries to calm the parents concerns by saying, "I can only cheer from the sidelines and set a positive example for the kids when I can, but it is important to me to see them growing up right and I believe in what you’re doing. I know you have a great support system within your family already; just know I am more than willing to help out if ever I can." … Yea, he wants to help out. What he really wants is to help her out of her clothes.

He tells the parents that he has already developed a strong relationship with their daughter, but then tries to smooth it over by claiming to be like an older brother…

“I want you to know that I have always had the best intentions at heart, and I always will. I’ve become a protective older brother with her (sometimes over-protective), and I’ve become concerned about her success in life, I am also a real friend to her, and she’ll tell you the same things. In short she has become someone special to me and I enjoy helping her.” … Did you catch that part? -very special to him. Translation: He's sexually attracted to her and he wants her bad.

He then tries to explain why he wants to spend so much time alone with her. We of course know its because he sees her as a sexual object. But he is in the grooming mode and is attempting to charm her parents into letting him have her in his house ALONE with him and without her siblings around….

“I believe it is good for her to have one more person around to encourage her and I think sometimes she needs someone else to talk to. It’s also good for her to talk to an older friend (as in non-related) who has her best interests at heart.” …best interests?

“I want to always keep things out in the open” … No you don’t. You want to get this child alone in your house so that you can have her to yourself.

“I have told her that with your expressed permission she is welcome in my home. If you give the OK she may come over anytime to finish her homework, here where there are fewer distractions. I would make sure it gets completed and work with her should she need it. She is also welcomed to come over just to talk or if she just feels like getting out of the house.” … Oh, doesn’t that just sound so nice, and sweet, and innocent? NOT!

“I am not asking you for anything, I just want you to know that I’m very good to her and she is more than welcomed here.” … Translation: Don’t worry, I won’t hurt her much. At least not at first. Yes, I want to rape her, but I’ll wait and mess with her mind first. Then I'll force her to believe that it’s something that she really wants. That way when she gets too old for me, I can walk away from her, and move on to my next victim.

We wrote about BH before. He was trying to find a way to gain public acceptance. He wanted to fool everyone into believing that he was a “good” pedophile…

“If we adopt a non-threatening approach, and stay within the law. Then maybe we can gain just a little credibility with the public. If we build on this new image: "CL [Child Lover] in defense of those they love", then maybe we can begin a dialog...but as long as outing ourselves is societal suicide, then we can't do anything anyway.”
- Blue Heaven
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Don’t ever forget that pedophiles are child PREDATORS. They will attempt to manipulate everyone around them in order to gain access to their victims. Your job as parents and caregivers is to stop them. Don’t fall for their lies. Don’t let them lull you into a false sense of safety. Pedophiles are not safe. They do not care about the well being of children. All they care about is how to get their hands on their next victim.

How do you stop a child predator? Go to our grooming articles and get some really good info here.

Jack McClellan- Pedophile, Child Predator, Grooming

Grooming: What child predators do to manipulate their victims, the families, and entire communities.

Jack McClellan: He told the Oregonian newspaper he won’t take pictures of little girls anymore because now he "sees it from the parents' side."

Grooming: Charm, intimidation, or justification.

Predators refuse to honor boundaries set by society. When confronted, they will not only continue the abusive behavior, but they will go on the offensive and accuse you of harassment.

Jack McClellan: “I have never done anything illegal with a child or regarding a child.”

Grooming: Don’t be fooled by pedophile lies.

Jack claims to see pedophilia “from the parents' side." Well, Jack, just exactly how do you manage that? After years of producing a website that not only exploited small children, but showed other child predators how to find children, you think we believe you when you say you understand a parent’s point of view?

You’ve never done anything illegal regarding a child? You violated the restraining order placed on you and sat in the waiting area/lobby of the UCLA children’s day care center with a camera. After being arrested for that and being told by UCLA campus police not to return, what did you do? You went right back and got yourself arrested again at UCLA. I guess you don’t consider any of that illegal.

Stop trying to tell people what you think they want to hear. We see right through your pedophile lies.

Keep an eye out for Jack. He lives in his car, a Blue 1993 Ford Escort two-door with Washington license plate 915WEX.



To read more on how child predators groom and manipulate those around them, go to our grooming articles here.

The Death Sentence: Executing Pedophiles and Child Rapists

The Louisiana Supreme Court last week upheld the death sentence for a pedophile, and the governor of Texas is soon to sign into law legislation to that effect.

In 1995, Louisiana was the first state to adopt legislation authorizing the death penalty for child rapists.

But in some states, elected officials amended their versions of the "Jessica Law'' by adding the possibility of condemning a pedophile to death.

They include Louisiana, Oklahoma, South Carolina, Georgia and Montana.
An overwhelming majority of politicians in Texas chose to join the list. Texas is responsible for a third of all executions carried out in the United States in the past 30 years and for two-thirds of those conducted so far this year.

The draft law is now on the desk of Texas Governor Rick Perry, who has promised to sign it. source
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What was one “boylover” reaction?

“Note that the definition of "rape" varies wildly - in some jurisdictions, any sex act of any kind become "rape" if the "victim" is below a specified age, even if 100% consensual.”

Consensual? Children cannot consent to sex. Everyone knows that. Unless you’re a pedophile and you think grooming a child means the child “consented” to rape. Yes, rape. That’s what sex with a child is.

Pedophiles are monsters. period. Anyone who lusts after children, or who thinks a toddler in diapers is sexy, is a monster.

The Devastation of Child Molestation and Hope for Tomorrow

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A victim of child abuse once told me:

"that one incident that lasted all of 15 minutes has defined my life forever. I will never know who I could be apart from that experience"

This is why these monsters must be stopped.

Kevin K. Nelson said it best:

“Looking to the future is not pretending that the past never happened; it is accepting the past for what it is…a part of us, a part that we cannot change, and a part that has affected every aspect of our lives. We must also remember, though, that our past is not everything. Your past has helped to shape you, but now you have a choice. You can choose to let your past rule your life, or choose to let God mold your life into something beautiful. If you are willing, God can use the pain from your life—not only to strengthen you—but also to give you the opportunity to help others through their own pain.”

FACTS:

It's estimated that there are 60 million survivors of childhood molestation in America. Source: yes ICAN Statistics on survivors.

Girls and boys are molested about the same amount, but girls are molested a little more often. Source: Child Abuse: Betraying a trust. Information Plus 1981-1997

More than 75% of perpetrators are parents. The rest are relatives, child care providers, foster parents and other adults. Source: Child Abuse: Betraying a Trust. Information Plus 1981-1997

If you are a victim of abuse, please seek help. You can also go to the Survivor Connections, Inc. They have a great page called What to do and how to do it.

Jeffery Yazwa- Child Porn Found on K-8 School Principal's Computer

Jeffery R. Yazwa, 35, principal at Walker Butte K-8 School, was arrested in his Johnson Ranch area home in Arizona. He was indicted by a Maricopa County Grand Jury on 12 counts of sexual exploitation of a minor and dangerous crimes against children.

The FBI conducted an investigation after an abandoned lap top computer was turned in to them. The computer was found to have sexually explicit images of children on it. After further investigation it was found to be owned by Yazwa and it had been abandoned at one of his previous residences.

Before becoming a principal at Walker-Butte Elementary School, Yazwa was employed as the Assistant Principal at Florence High school. Earlier, from July 1995 through August 1999, Yazwa was employed as a 3rd grade teacher at Shumway Elementary School. Yazwa was also employed as a 4th grade teacher from August 1999 through June 2000 and as a 6th grade teacher from August 2000 through July 2002 at Conley Elementary School.

There is no evidence that Yazwa had any sexual contact with children, but the FBI asks anyone with information related to this investigation to call (602) 294-4228.

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Before I go any further, I’d like to point out that Mr. Yazwa is innocent until proven guilty. By posting my follow up here, I am in no way stating that Mr. Yazwa is guilty of any crimes.

We keep saying how important grooming is in identifying a child predator. We’ve pointed out that molesters are often charming. They get along with everyone and are very popular. He is a trusted friend or relative. A pillar of the community, he would never do anything ‘shady’ or inappropriate. They are upstanding members of the community and tend to present a perfect image. He’s a great guy, and everyone’s friend.

Molesters have manipulative manners that charm or intimidate adults into believing them to be above reproach. The behavior is a public image, controlled to support private behavior.

By ‘charming’ the adults to believe they are a good and decent person, they have created protection for themselves if they are ever accused. This is called image management. It is planned out very carefully, and it is all a lie to get you to trust them.

After a molester is exposed, it is common for adults to say things like, “He was the last guy I would suspect to do something like this.”

Molesters become friends to adults, helping them out, being friendly and nice, and just doing things that friends would do. They don’t do this out of kindness; they do this to get to your children.

If you haven’t done so already, please read our grooming articles. Learn how these predators operate so that you can better protect your children.

Sources: here and here.

MySpace Dangers: Chad Evans- He Doesn't Look Like a Child Pornographer...

19-year-old Chad Lewis Evans was arrested on Child Pornography and sexual abuse charges in Pasadena, California on March 27th. source

He fled Salem, Oregon after being found with child pornography and identified as exploiting a 12 year old victim.

This story has been all over the news and the internet for weeks. What you haven’t heard is that Chad Evans has a MySpace page and his friends are already proclaiming his innocence.

WFI has uncovered Chad's personal MySpace page and pictures. As you can see here, he appears to be an average 19 year old.

Parents and teens need to be aware of how dangerous the internet is. You may have wondered about MySpace and other social networking sites that people use to chat and message each other.

Teens use this site and others like it, to post pictures and chat with friends and with strangers. Almost everyone at school has a MySpace page that lists all kinds of information about them. Teens feel safe flirting with strangers, even older men, because they are hiding behind a computer.

Teens often forget that anyone can be at the other end of a message. A 57 year old man can make a MySpace account and say he’s a 17 year old girl. He can even post pictures of “himself” on his page using any pictures he wants.

With Chad Evans, it turns out he really was a 19 year old from Salem, Oregon. He just didn’t mention that he was into child pornography and exploiting young children.

MySpace can be used as a hunting ground by child predators. Parents need to be aware of what their kids are doing online at all times.

In one case, Sonny Szeto, 22, traveled from Jersey City, N.J., to Connecticut in October and molested an 11-year-old girl in her playroom while her parents slept upstairs, according to an FBI affidavit.

In the other case, Stephen Letavec, 39, molested a 14-year-old Connecticut girl in his car while visiting from Elrama, Pa., in October, according to another FBI report. The FBI said Letavec made several visits to see the girl between last summer and January.

"I showed you what love is and how it feels," Letavec wrote in an e-mail found in the girl's school locker, according to the FBI report. "I want to show you how making love feels too, not just sex because there is a difference."

The girl signed onto MySpace as an 18-year-old, but told Letavec she was 14 before he visited, the FBI said. source

Child Psychiatrist- William Ayres Arrested for Child Molestation

William Ayres Arrested and charged with 14 felony counts of lewd and lascivious acts with a child under 14.

UPDATE:

Anyone with any information on Ayres or potential victims, please contact: jsomerville5@yahoo.com This is the original person who reported this molester to the police and they are continuing to work to help in this case.

State officials moved to restrict the ability of Ayres to practice medicine after his arrest on molestation charges. The deputy attorney general representing the Medical Board of California asked the judge to issue a "no-practice" order that would temporarily block Ayres from practicing medicine. The judge then suspended the doctor's license to practice and ordered him to stay away from the 30 people prosecutors allege he molested.
sources: here and here.

This predator once headed the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. The San Mateo board of supervisors honored him five years ago with a lifetime achievement award, citing "his tireless effort to improve the lives of children and adolescents."

More like his tireless efforts to abuse and rape children under his care.

He is accused of fondling three boys repeatedly between 1991 and 1996 while they were his patients. The boys were 9, 11 and 12 at the time and are now in their 20s. The statute of limitations for such crimes is 10 years or until the victim turns 28.

This is a horrible betrayal. A child's own Psychiatrist molesting them, taking advantage, forcing himself on them, and causing irrevocable harm.

Who's defending this monster? Vincent O'Malley. He got his bail reduced from 1.5 million to just $250000 because he's in poor health.

I'd like to show him what poor health can feel like. I'm sure his victims would too.

If convicted of all 14 counts, Ayres could face a maximum 112 years in prison.

Finally, a decent length prison time for a child molester.

At least 21 victims dating back to 1969 have been identified, but most fall outside the statute of limitations.

Anyone with information should call police at (650) 522-7652 and help get this monster convicted.

sources: here, here, and here.

Grooming: How Pedophiles and Child Molesters Groom Victims and Their Families

We have several articles that describe the grooming process that predators use both on the internet and in real life. We also offer suggestions on how to combat these dangers.

Pedophiles see themselves as “child lovers” not as abusive or dangerous. They find ways to justify their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. They often claim that parents are neglectful and that they can take better care of other people’s children by ‘loving’ and ‘caring’ for them.

Parents should beware of anyone who wants to be with their children more than they do.

The pedophiles do not want you to know this. Knowledge really is power. You need to educate yourself so that you can have power over these monsters. The power to protect your children. The power to stop them.

Pedophiles operate in a specific pattern. They are calculating, manipulative, deceptive, and very patient when it comes to acquiring their goal. If you can recognize this behavior, then you can identify the predator and stop them.

So take a look at our Grooming Articles. The more people who have this information, the fewer victims will be available for these monsters to prey on. Spread the word. We are all fighting for the safety of our children. Remember...

Sixty-seven percent of all victims of sexual assault reported to law enforcement agencies were juveniles (under the age of 18), and 34% of all victims were under age 12.

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If you have updated information, or if your child is missing, please email us and we will post it.

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