The Time for Looking the Other Way Has Come to an End

It’s Time to Make a Difference

I’m here to tell you the truth. The truth is, there are monsters out there. They want to rape our kids. The truth is ugly and brutal. I will not stand by, and let these monsters carry on without any type of accountability. You need to be aware of these monsters. You need to know what they do and how they do it. It starts here, and it starts now.

As parents, we are in charge of our kids. We are the ones who have to keep them safe. We cannot put that responsibility onto the child. A child cannot mentally or physically fight a predator. That does not mean that they should not be educated. It just means that the time for looking the other way has come to an end.

Just look down at your child or grandchild. Take a good look. What would you do to protect them? Anything, right? Well, now is the time to start educating yourself. Knowledge is power.

Start with reading our Grooming Articles. Then…

Talk about it:

Stop being embarrassed or afraid to say the words, “molestation”, or “sex”, or “child molester” or “pedophile” or “child predator”. Use them, and think of them. Let your child know that it’s ok to say those words too. I’m not saying it’s ok to accuse or label someone; I’m saying society is afraid to talk about taboo subjects. It gives the power to the predators. If you are hesitant to use those words, then you won’t talk about it. Talking about it means the subject is no longer taboo, and it takes the power away from the predators.

Be Brave:

At first you will stand out and draw attention. That’s good. You want others to listen to you when you talk about child predators. Know this: If your child is molested, there’s a 85-95% chance that is was done by someone you know or someone your child knows. You need to be brave enough to look at those you know, love, and trust, and think, “is he/she a child predator?” You need to do this before it’s too late- before they get their hands on your child.

Use your knowledge:

Use your knowledge to keep your kids safe. If you see someone using grooming behaviors, stop them by preventing them from controlling the situation. Don’t let them get what they want just to be polite. If you see inappropriate behavior, say something. That’s right, speak up and point it out and make that person stop. Look them in the eye and let them know that you know exactly what they are doing and that you will not tolerate it.

Share the Knowledge:

Share the information about grooming and child predators with everyone. This is how we will stop them. If everyone knew what to look for, then there would be a lot less victims out there.

As I said before, 2008 will be a turning point in the fight against child predators and in strengthening public awareness. It starts here and now, and it starts with you. You CAN make a difference. By making a difference, you can help save a child from rape, torture, and even death. Don’t let the predators get away with hurting our children. They hide and lie because they know that people don’t want to face the truth. The time for looking the other way has come to an end. Please help me to tell the truth to everyone. Please help me to stop the monsters.

She Asked Me To Marry Her

“She asked me to marry her. I felt so wonderful!! That night she kissed me alot! My heart was beating so hard. I then cuddled with her for the rest of her night. Her warm body felt soft and beautiful. I will always remember that night!!"

That sounds like a man who’s in love with his girlfriend and can’t wait to marry her. It just makes you want to smile and be happy, right?

Hold on to that thought for just a minute, because I’m going to burst your bubble. This just happens to be a quote from a pedophile about a 4 year old girl. This pedophile was over at “a friend of the family” and was lusting after their 4 year old daughter. That’s right, 4 years old!

A 4 year old girl on average weighs about 30 pounds. She is just under 40 inches tall (less than 4 feet).

Make no mistake, pedophiles and child predators have only one thing on their minds- they lust after children. Children as young as infants and toddlers.

They claim to have the child's best interest at heart and that they can care for children better than their own parents. Just ask LGsoul, he's been chatting over at a parenting site and is frustrated at the way parents raise their children. He says, "I so badly want to tell them I have been to pedophile forums and pedophiles seem to know how to be better parents."

Pedophiles truly believe that they are good, and that children can consent to sex. You cannot change their minds or reason with them. All you can do is protect your children from them.


So go read our Grooming Articles and educate yourself on how these pedophiles and child molesters get their hands on our children. Then do something to stop them. Our children need us to keep the monsters away. They need us to learn how to recognize grooming and to stand up and protect them. Don't let them down. Do something to make a difference and to stop the monsters.

Child Sexual Abuse Statistics

A lot of people ask about the statistics on Child Sexual Abuse (CSA). I've dug up a few numbers. It just makes me sick to my stomach every time I see these...

CSA Stats

1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before their 18th birthdays.

1 in 5 children are sexually solicited while on the Internet.

Nearly 70% of all reported sexual assaults (including assaults on adults) occur to children ages 17 and under.

The median age for reported sexual abuse is 9 years old.

Approximately 20% of the victims of sexual abuse are under age eight.

50% of all victims of forcible sodomy, sexual assault with an object, and forcible fondling are under age twelve.

Most child victims never report the abuse. Over 30% of victims never disclose the experience to ANYONE.

85-90% of all sexual assaults against children are committed by someone whom the victim knew.

35% involve a family member, and 50% of all assaults take place in the home of the child or the offender.

Nearly 70% of child sex offenders have between 1 and 9 victims; at least 20% have 10 to 40 victims.

An average serial child molester may have as many as 400 victims in his lifetime.

The typical sexual predator will assault 117 times before being caught.

An estimated 3.3 percent of the 4,300 released child molesters were rearrested for another sex crime against a child within 3 years. Most of the children they were alleged to have molested after leaving prison were age 13 or younger.

Almost 80% of victims initially deny abuse or are tentative in disclosing. Of those who do disclose, approximately 75% disclose accidentally. Additionally, of those who do disclose, more than 20% eventually recant even though the abuse occurred.

Fabricated sexual abuse reports constitute only 1% to 4% of all reported cases. Of these reports, 75% are falsely reported by adults and 25% are reported by children. Children only fabricate ½% of the time.

Victims of child sexual abuse report more substance abuse problems. 70-80% of sexual abuse survivors report excessive drug and alcohol use.

Young girls who are sexually abused are 3 times more likely to develop psychiatric disorders or alcohol and drug abuse in adulthood, than girls who are not sexually abused.

Among male survivors, more than 70% seek psychological treatment for issues such as substance abuse, suicidal thoughts and attempted suicide. Males who have been sexually abused are more likely to violently victimize others.

Sources: here, here, and here.