Check List: How to Spot a Child Predator or Child Molester

You need to be aware of the following...

~ A person who is very helpful or alluring

~ A person who exhibits peer-like play

~ A person who has no adult friends and will spend time with children rather than adults

~ A person who plays tickling games and roughhouses/dog piles with kids

~ A person who is immediately accepted into the family

~ A person who refuses to honor boundaries set by you or by society in general

These are all signs of grooming that child predators will use on you, your family, and on entire communities. There is no way to know for sure if someone is a child molester until they have violated a child. Therefore, you cannot accuse someone based on this information. Instead, you can use this as a tool to screen out high risk people, and to keep them away from your children.

A person who is very helpful or alluring:

By alluring we mean they are so enticing, flattering, and well loved, that it's like a seduction. They suck you in and manipulate you into unconditional trust without you even realizing it.

This is someone who offers help without asking for anything in return. They already have a price in mind- your child. Inside, they hate you. But on the outside, they become whatever it is you want or need. They want you to like them and trust them so that when they rape your child, you won’t suspect a thing.

A person who exhibits peer-like play:

Ever hear someone described as “just another big kid”? That’s fine, as long as they are able to switch back to an adult rather than staying in the “kid” mode continuously. Child molesters think of children as their peers. They see them in terms of sexual attraction, not cuteness.

A person who has no adult friends and will spend time with children rather than adults:

We all have friends and even acquaintances that we talk with on a regular basis. Child predators devote all of their time to children. Their entire lives revolve around children. They continue babysitting, and often prefer activities and jobs that involve children like mentoring for children’s organizations, coaching, teaching, camp counselors, etc. They will often choose these activities over socializing with their adult peers. There's nothing wrong with jobs and activities that revolve around children, but when an adult chooses children over nearly all adult activities, they are high risk.

For example, there is a party at a friends house. "Bob" offers to watch the children for everyone, rather than attend the party. He has a good excuse of course, but he always seems to spend his time with children rather than adults.

A person who plays tickling games and roughhouses/dog piles with kids:

When interviewed, convicted child molesters describe how they use tickling to desensitize children to sexual touch, and to push the boundaries of acceptable behavior in front of the parents. Is it alright for Grandpa to tickle his grandchild and laugh with him/her? Yes, of course it is. But it’s not appropriate for a grown man or woman to “dog pile” with several young children. It’s also not appropriate for an adult to get physically personal with your children by tickling and touching.

A person who is immediately accepted into the family:

Being accepted into a family situation should take time and trust. Child predators are skilled at manipulating adults into accepting them. Stop and take a look at any situation where a stranger, who approaches your family or child, immediately gains your complete trust and acceptance.

A person who refuses to honor boundaries set by you or by society in general:

He might touch children’s bottoms when pushing them on the swings, or tickle and touch inappropriately. He might find ways to be alone with your child for long periods of time. He might give your child gifts and convince your child that they need to spend more time alone together.

Anyone who crosses the line, and does something to make you or your child uncomfortable, should be setting off alarms. He will use excuses that make him appear to be helping your child, or concerned for your child. Excuses such as helping with homework, or practicing baseball, etc.

Often when confronted, the predator will go on the attack and be offended that you accused him. He may accuse you of being inappropriate. Then he will continue the abuse.

Child molestation has reached epidemic proportions. 25-33% of children continue to be molested. 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before their 18th birthdays. What we are doing now, is not working. It’s time to change that. The time for looking the other way has come to an end.

Arm yourself with information so that you can help to stop the child predators from getting their hands on another victim. Remember, 95% of all child molestation is done by someone the child and/or family knows, not by strangers. Child predators do not want you to know what they do and how they manipulate you into trusting them. Don’t let that happen. Do something to stop it. Do something to make a difference and to keep our children safe.

Go read all of our grooming articles here

We Have an Obligation to Protect the Innocent

We have an obligation to protect the innocent. We must stand between those who need our protection and those who would do them harm.

It's time to stand up and make a difference. It's time to stop the child predators by taking the victims away from them. It will take all of us working together to stop the madness.

Pedophiles are predators- Predators that can spend weeks, months, or even years grooming their victims and their families. You hear about it on the news. The child molester befriended a family. He gained their trust. Then, when he raped their children, the parents never suspected anything.

Over 95 percent of child molesters are typically well loved by those around them. They become whatever you want them to be in order to fit in and be accepted by you. Their goal is to control you. Don't let them.

You can make a difference. You can do this. We can all do this. Our children are depending on us to keep them safe. Don't let them be betrayed by someone that you trust.

Go read our Grooming Articles and arm yourself with the information to help you to stop the monsters. Stand up and make a difference. Stand between the monsters and the innocent.

Ordinary people, even weak people, can do extraordinary things through temporary courage generated by a situation. But the person of character does not need the situation to generate his courage. It is a part of his being and a standard approach to all life's challenges. ~ Michael S. Josephson

The Time for Looking the Other Way Has Come to an End

It’s Time to Make a Difference

I’m here to tell you the truth. The truth is, there are monsters out there. They want to rape our kids. The truth is ugly and brutal. I will not stand by, and let these monsters carry on without any type of accountability. You need to be aware of these monsters. You need to know what they do and how they do it. It starts here, and it starts now.

As parents, we are in charge of our kids. We are the ones who have to keep them safe. We cannot put that responsibility onto the child. A child cannot mentally or physically fight a predator. That does not mean that they should not be educated. It just means that the time for looking the other way has come to an end.

Just look down at your child or grandchild. Take a good look. What would you do to protect them? Anything, right? Well, now is the time to start educating yourself. Knowledge is power.

Start with reading our Grooming Articles. Then…

Talk about it:

Stop being embarrassed or afraid to say the words, “molestation”, or “sex”, or “child molester” or “pedophile” or “child predator”. Use them, and think of them. Let your child know that it’s ok to say those words too. I’m not saying it’s ok to accuse or label someone; I’m saying society is afraid to talk about taboo subjects. It gives the power to the predators. If you are hesitant to use those words, then you won’t talk about it. Talking about it means the subject is no longer taboo, and it takes the power away from the predators.

Be Brave:

At first you will stand out and draw attention. That’s good. You want others to listen to you when you talk about child predators. Know this: If your child is molested, there’s a 85-95% chance that is was done by someone you know or someone your child knows. You need to be brave enough to look at those you know, love, and trust, and think, “is he/she a child predator?” You need to do this before it’s too late- before they get their hands on your child.

Use your knowledge:

Use your knowledge to keep your kids safe. If you see someone using grooming behaviors, stop them by preventing them from controlling the situation. Don’t let them get what they want just to be polite. If you see inappropriate behavior, say something. That’s right, speak up and point it out and make that person stop. Look them in the eye and let them know that you know exactly what they are doing and that you will not tolerate it.

Share the Knowledge:

Share the information about grooming and child predators with everyone. This is how we will stop them. If everyone knew what to look for, then there would be a lot less victims out there.

As I said before, 2008 will be a turning point in the fight against child predators and in strengthening public awareness. It starts here and now, and it starts with you. You CAN make a difference. By making a difference, you can help save a child from rape, torture, and even death. Don’t let the predators get away with hurting our children. They hide and lie because they know that people don’t want to face the truth. The time for looking the other way has come to an end. Please help me to tell the truth to everyone. Please help me to stop the monsters.

Sues on Blog Talk Radio- TAAP

Tune in Friday, February 29, 2008 at 8am (Pacific time) for a Blog Talk Radio show about how to recognize grooming in a child predator. Go here for information.

Feel free to call in for discussion and/or questions. If you can't tune in, then you can listen to the show anytime afterward.

TAAP: Take Action Against Predators is a new BTR show hosted by Sunny and Kiki. Their first introductory show will be Monday, February 25th. Tune in and check it out.

She Asked Me To Marry Her

“She asked me to marry her. I felt so wonderful!! That night she kissed me alot! My heart was beating so hard. I then cuddled with her for the rest of her night. Her warm body felt soft and beautiful. I will always remember that night!!"

That sounds like a man who’s in love with his girlfriend and can’t wait to marry her. It just makes you want to smile and be happy, right?

Hold on to that thought for just a minute, because I’m going to burst your bubble. This just happens to be a quote from a pedophile about a 4 year old girl. This pedophile was over at “a friend of the family” and was lusting after their 4 year old daughter. That’s right, 4 years old!

A 4 year old girl on average weighs about 30 pounds. She is just under 40 inches tall (less than 4 feet).

Make no mistake, pedophiles and child predators have only one thing on their minds- they lust after children. Children as young as infants and toddlers.

They claim to have the child's best interest at heart and that they can care for children better than their own parents. Just ask LGsoul, he's been chatting over at a parenting site and is frustrated at the way parents raise their children. He says, "I so badly want to tell them I have been to pedophile forums and pedophiles seem to know how to be better parents."

Pedophiles truly believe that they are good, and that children can consent to sex. You cannot change their minds or reason with them. All you can do is protect your children from them.


So go read our Grooming Articles and educate yourself on how these pedophiles and child molesters get their hands on our children. Then do something to stop them. Our children need us to keep the monsters away. They need us to learn how to recognize grooming and to stand up and protect them. Don't let them down. Do something to make a difference and to stop the monsters.

Child Molesters, Pedophiles, and Child Predators: How to Protect Your Children

Child predators are very difficult to detect. They are good at hiding. Their entire life is fake, a lie. They lie everyday of their lives. They use deception to cover up what they really are- predators hunting children.

Most child molesters begin hunting children with deception, lies, and manipulation, not with violence. They work very hard to make you like them because they know that it will make it difficult for you to believe they are molesting or raping your child.

Their lies and deception are difficult or impossible to detect either because they are so practiced at lying, or because they convince themselves they are not doing harm, or because they enjoy lying.

They are practiced liars. Looking for signs of lies does not work. Looking down/away or fidgeting are well known supposed signs of lying, so child molesters won’t do that. Instead, they will use direct eye contact when talking to you because they know it will make most people think that they are telling the truth.

Child molesters don’t show or feel guilt when they lie. They often convince themselves that what they do to children is not wrong or harmful. Telling themselves that children should be free to have sex, or that they really like it, or even that they deserve whatever is done to them, are ways the molester justifies their brutality.

Psychopaths are a different breed all together. They actually enjoy lying. They get a thrill out of it, and will lie any chance they get, even if there is nothing to gain by doing it. They lie for the joy of lying and being able to fool someone.

Liars will commonly evade an issue rather than outright lying. You should pay careful attention to what people say instead of what they are implying. We often anticipate what we think people are going to say, and then fill in the rest in our heads. Although most child molesters will directly lie if pushed hard enough, they start by objecting to the question, or answering the question with a question, or saying things like, “I can’t believe you think I did that.” In other words, they will avoid outright answering a question or accusation.

Stopping Child Predators:

Since it is so hard to tell if child molesters are lying, the best way to stop them and protect your children is to avoid high risk people, high risk situations, and to look for signs of grooming.

Look for and put a stop to common signs of grooming:

• Singling out your child or taking them away from a group

• Unnecessary and inappropriate touching

• Special favors, gifts, or attention

• Taking your child on trips or extra activities

• Trying to spend extra time with your child outside of the appropriate activities

Avoid high risk people and situations. A man with no adult friends or spouse, who spends most or all of his time with children or youth activities, is high risk. If they don’t have children of their own, or children in the age group they are spending time with, be suspicious.

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Joe is a nice young man. He’s single with no kids of his own. He appears to have no friends his own age. He always hangs out with the neighborhood kids. He's usually with kids who are 12 years old and younger. The kids get along great with him, and look up to him. He even has them over to his house to go swimming. He often babysits for a couple of the families in the neighborhood for free. There was a block party a couple of months ago and everyone was there. Joe spent his time with all of the children instead of with any of the adults.

He just offered to take the neighborhood boys to a movie down the street. He wants to know if your 10 year old son can go too.

Should you let your son go to the movie? NO

Should you let your son spend time with this man? NO

This man is high risk, and therefore he should be avoided, and your son should not be with him. That does not mean that you should be rude to him or accuse him of anything. It simply means that he should be avoided like the plague.

Be warned. Child molesters and pedophiles are predators. They will ask you if your child can participate in an activity in front of your child. They do this on purpose. They want you to have to make an immediate decision. If you say no, then you disappoint your child, and you become the bad guy. They are predators hunting their prey. They know they have a better chance of getting their hands (and other body parts) on your child if your child is present when they ask you these questions.

You need to be with your child. I know we are all busy, but the best way to deter a child predator is to spend time with your child. Go to their activities, their baseball practices, as well as the games. Don’t just drop them off. If you are there, then you send a message to predators that your child is off limits and that you are watching. Molesters look for easy targets. They look for something that is missing or needed. Then they become what is needed and fill the void. If you are with your child, then the predator will move on and find another child to victimize.

Read all of our Grooming Articles here.

Check back, there’s more grooming information coming soon.

Pedophiles Encouraged to “Infiltrate” the Teaching Profession

Child predators and pedophiles have always been in all areas of life, and in every profession. They often get jobs that involve children. I found a post at a pedophile message board that openly encourages these child predators to "infiltrate the teaching profession" because "This is where the poisoning is at its most insidious, and this is where an antidote of true childlove is most effective."

That’s right folks, the pedophiles and child molesters are organizing and instructing each other on how to become teachers so they can gain access to our kids. They feel it is their “duty to help these kids”.

Pedophiles and child molesters are finding ways to “legitimately” spend time with small children. Alone. They are now plotting ways to overtake society without revealing themselves.

Their slogan? "You'll be helping the kids, helping our cause, and enriching your life."

Help? Let’s just stop and take a look at what pedophiles and child molesters think “helping” kids is…

LOD says, "I just want to make a little girl happy and have a loving relationship with her. That's all. Now is that so wrong?"

While Blue Heaven says, “We're good people trying to do good things.” He talks about his “girlfriend” and says, “I love this girl, and I like to spend time with HER not her attention hogging sister. We broke the rules, though. We were *gasp* alone…. I realized the mother sees me for what I am.”

On the subject of “Babies and nonconsensual touching”, hayaku says, “fondling it or giving a prostate massage would not [count as molesting] so long as it was to calm and please it.” - I just love how he refers to a baby as “it”. This is just another example of how a child molester justfies anally molesting a child.

Joey Bishop doesn't water it down. He says, "My AoA is a bit lower than yours(8 to 12), and yeah, when I see a hot girl of that age, I do think "she's hot".

In case you doubt the sexual desire of pedophiles, weasel makes it disgustingly clear in a post titled, "Hunting boys down"…

“I was entranced. Cute little, red, round butt, bustling down the street, and a sweet head of blond hair, to top it off... I saw his butt close-up. His red nylon pants were perfectly contoured to his hot little body, as was his black, long sleeve, stretch polyester shirt.”

Now, back to the original issue, child predators infiltrating the teaching profession…

LGsouL says, "This is a good frontier on which to help kids and spread our cause without revealing ourselves for the better of society as a whole. I am aiming for my 60 credits now. I should be done by next year some time WOOHOO I cannot wait!"

gl4ever agrees, and even posts about being accused of "inappropriate touching" where he claims to have only touched a little girls "lower tummy".

Wake up people! Pedophiles and child molesters are in our schools. They are in our children’s organizations. They are our neighbors, coaches, counselors, pastors, mentors, uncles, brothers, parents, and friends. In other words, they are anyone and everyone, and they are everywhere.

Do not allow your child to be alone with an adult. Do not ignore your instincts. If you see or suspect suspicious behavior, put a stop to it and report it.

Read our Grooming Articles Here, and keep your kids safe.

Child Sexual Abuse Statistics

A lot of people ask about the statistics on Child Sexual Abuse (CSA). I've dug up a few numbers. It just makes me sick to my stomach every time I see these...

CSA Stats

1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before their 18th birthdays.

1 in 5 children are sexually solicited while on the Internet.

Nearly 70% of all reported sexual assaults (including assaults on adults) occur to children ages 17 and under.

The median age for reported sexual abuse is 9 years old.

Approximately 20% of the victims of sexual abuse are under age eight.

50% of all victims of forcible sodomy, sexual assault with an object, and forcible fondling are under age twelve.

Most child victims never report the abuse. Over 30% of victims never disclose the experience to ANYONE.

85-90% of all sexual assaults against children are committed by someone whom the victim knew.

35% involve a family member, and 50% of all assaults take place in the home of the child or the offender.

Nearly 70% of child sex offenders have between 1 and 9 victims; at least 20% have 10 to 40 victims.

An average serial child molester may have as many as 400 victims in his lifetime.

The typical sexual predator will assault 117 times before being caught.

An estimated 3.3 percent of the 4,300 released child molesters were rearrested for another sex crime against a child within 3 years. Most of the children they were alleged to have molested after leaving prison were age 13 or younger.

Almost 80% of victims initially deny abuse or are tentative in disclosing. Of those who do disclose, approximately 75% disclose accidentally. Additionally, of those who do disclose, more than 20% eventually recant even though the abuse occurred.

Fabricated sexual abuse reports constitute only 1% to 4% of all reported cases. Of these reports, 75% are falsely reported by adults and 25% are reported by children. Children only fabricate ½% of the time.

Victims of child sexual abuse report more substance abuse problems. 70-80% of sexual abuse survivors report excessive drug and alcohol use.

Young girls who are sexually abused are 3 times more likely to develop psychiatric disorders or alcohol and drug abuse in adulthood, than girls who are not sexually abused.

Among male survivors, more than 70% seek psychological treatment for issues such as substance abuse, suicidal thoughts and attempted suicide. Males who have been sexually abused are more likely to violently victimize others.

Sources: here, here, and here.

Sues on Blog Talk Radio with Political Pistachio

I had the privilege of being a guest on the Political Pistachio Blog Talk Radio show yesterday evening.

I just wanted to say thank you to Doug and Mrs. Pistachio for inviting me on their show. You are both awesome. And a big thank you goes out to everyone who called in (Phil, the Loon, and Loki) and listens in to this show.

I am truly humbled by your praise and support. Together we can all make a difference. We need to increase awareness and help educate everyone about child predators. The predators have had the advantage for far too long. It's past time to change that.

Here's the link to the show

Child Predators- How Do You Really Know?

I’m often asked, “How can I spot a child predator, pedophile, or child molester? How do I really know?”

After reading our Grooming Articles, you’ll have some really great information at your fingertips that will help you recognize the behaviors of these predators.

Education really is the key to preventing these monsters from gaining access to our children. These guys rely on you NOT knowing how they operate and act. Our goal is to stop that from happening.

So how do you really know if someone is a threat? The problem is, you don’t. You can suspect, deter, and prevent, but you may never really know. Child predators are master manipulators and expert liars. They befriend the parents only so they can access their children.

You can’t point your finger at everyone who fits the profile of a child predator. But you can trust your instincts and your gut. If it feels wrong, or if someone is suspicious, then keep them away from your children. Keeping your kids safe does not require labeling someone as a pedophile.

80-95% of all child abuse goes unreported. Children do not feel comfortable talking about abuse. Predators use this and will groom the child and manipulate them into not reporting it. It is not unusual for the child to develop feelings for the predator, and to want their approval. They will give up their ability to tell good from bad. This will end up justifying the molester’s behavior. Children are vulnerable and not physically capable of stopping abuse. Parents need to be the barrier that protects the children from predators.

Remember, in most cases, either the child or the parent knows the abuser. Don’t accept inappropriate behavior from anyone. Ever. Do not be confused by charm, intimidation, or justification. Don’t let others control the situation or cross the line of acceptable behavior. Learning to say “no” in a polite but assertive manner will not hinder friendships. It will, however, deter molesters. Child molesters will not waste their time on parents who refuse to accept their charm.

Predators have had the advantage for far too long. It’s time that we all stand up and do something to stop them.

Read all of our Grooming Articles here.

Not With My Child

With the Special Report airing on FOX News Thursday, I'm putting this post back up at the top so parents can read about predators and the threat they pose...

How to protect your child from predators

Child predators do not want you to know this information. They have a specific way of targeting not only your children, but you as parents as well. They operate in a specific pattern and rarely deviate from it. By learning how they work, you can recognize them and stop them from harming your children.

Remember, molesters are predators. They stalk and hunt our children. We want you to know what they do and how they do it so that you can arm yourself with knowledge.

Child molesters do something called grooming. Grooming is how a predator develops a friendship with the child, creating a bond, preparing them for sexual assault. Predators start by choosing the parents. They will push the boundaries of acceptable behavior to test parents and see if they can take advantage of them. They literally seduce the parents into allowing them access to their children. By charming parents and gaining their trust, the predator gains access to the family and is not suspected of inappropriate behavior.

Molesters are liars. They lie because they can and because their victims want to believe them. They create a false image within a community. By ‘charming’ the adults to believe they are a good and decent person, they have created protection for themselves if they are ever accused. This is called image management. It is planned out very carefully, and it is all a lie to get you to trust them.

Don’t give these monsters power over you by accepting their lies. They rely on the embarrassment of talking about child molestation. They know that most people won’t bring the subject up. They use this to their advantage. Don’t let them.

A child molester can be anyone- man or woman, married or single. Just because a man has sex with his wife, doesn’t mean he won’t try to have sex with a child. Because these predators vary in appearance, you must look closely at their behavior in order to recognize them for what they are.

After a molester is exposed, it is common for adults to say things like, “He was the last guy I would suspect to do something like this.” Molesters become friends to adults, helping them out, being friendly and nice, and just doing things that friends would do. They don’t do this out of kindness; they do this to get to your children.

Once a molester is confronted, they will not only continue to abuse, but they will become defensive to the point of threatening the accuser. This is where the image management comes in to play. By creating an untarnished image, the predator has convinced the community that he is innocent and the accuser (victim) is lying and trying to destroy his pristine image.

Most molestation’s are ‘explained away’ with excuses. Knowing these excuses can help you recognize how these predators operate.

Misunderstanding-

“She was trying to put on her bathing suit and needed help.”
“He complained of being sore. I was just checking him to make sure he was ok.”

Medical Reasons-

“He felt like he had a temperature. I was just checking him. I wasn’t doing anything wrong.”

Deferring the Blame-

“Her parents never did like me. They are just saying these horrible things about me to keep me away from my children.”

Personal Hygiene-

“I was giving him a bath. No, 8 years old is not too old to need help with a bath.”

Sex Education-

“She was just curious and asked me some questions. I was explaining the birds and the bees.”

How can you protect your children?

Talk to your kids - Parents are one of the single most effective tools in the fight against child sexual abuse. This may be an uncomfortable subject, but remember, you aren’t talking about sex, you’re talking about personal safety. You can use other safety issues as a ‘lead in’ to this topic.

Read to your kids – Sit down and read about safety. We have a couple of books on our side bar, or you can choose some of your own. You don’t even need a book. Set time aside to sit down and have a discussion.

Listen to your kids – Dictating, preaching, demanding, are all negative ways to talk to your kids. Even very young children need to be able to tell you their feelings, thoughts and fears. Make sure that you take the time to listen to your children.

Teach your kids – Teach them to trust their own feelings and instincts. Tell them it’s ok to say “no” and to be rude to people in order to protect themselves. Teach them about “good touch, bad touch”. Bad touch is where their bathing suit covers them. Make sure your children know to tell you if something does happen or even if someone makes them feel uncomfortable. Keeping secrets is not only wrong, but dangerous. If you don’t teach these things to your children, then you are leaving them open for the predators to teach them whatever they want.

Watch your kids – Keep a watchful eye on your children. Kids get distracted and often don’t think about dangers until it’s too late. Know where your kids are, what they are doing, and who they are doing it with at all times.

See all of our grooming articles here.

Arm yourself with the knowledge you need to protect your children. Then share this knowledge with everyone else.

Halloween Safety- Is Your Child Going to be Greeting a Registered Sex Offender Tonight?

Is your child going to be greeting a Registered Sex Offender (RSO) tonight? Find out by clicking on our link in our sidebar for the Family Watch Dog site or go here.

Registered Sex Offenders (RSO) are not supposed to have contact with children. Halloween allows them to break those rules all night long.

Pedophiles love Halloween. It brings children into close contact with them. They can ‘interact’ with the children without appearing suspicious. While they are saying things like, “oh, aren’t you an adorable little ballerina!” – they are really thinking things like how glad they are to, “…see them in there super cute and sometimes form fitting little costumes.”

Keeping your children safe on Halloween also means knowing who's house they will be going to. Check out your neighborhood on the Family Watch Dog site.

Pedophile Grooms Girl Online

It began with an apparently innocent "Hi" popping up on the young girl's computer screen.

It blossomed into a whirlwind online romance between the 14-year-old girl and a person she thought was a teenage boy.

Then it descended into a hell of sexual abuse at the hands of one of the country's most conniving predators.

The Year 8 student from a Melbourne girls' school would pass hours in her room on school projects and messaging her friends on the MSN network.

One Friday night, when her home was abuzz with familial activity, the victim found a new Internet friend wanting to talk.

Behind the words flickering on the girl's screen sat flabby, 34-year-old pedophile Bram Henderson.

Online, he was teen hunk "John'', who complimented the girl on her profile photo.

During the intense conversations that followed, the pedophile used multiple characters and an emotional arsenal of flattery, trickery, threats and guilt to manipulate the girl.

What happened over the course of the next few weeks was every parent's worst nightmare.

Using youthful abbreviations such as LOL (laugh out loud), DW (don't worry), kewl (cool), LMAO (laugh my ass off) and *S* (smile), he won her trust within five minutes of contact.

Within 10 minutes, Henderson was asking the girl where she went to school. Within 20, he was trying to meet her.

John, the 17-year-old bad boy with a heart of gold and a handsome online photo, was just one of three identities Henderson used to entrap his victim.

The troubled but romantic teen character said he was down from Sydney and didn't know many people, while dropping names of the girl's online friends.

He sent her poetry he claimed to have written and told her she was the most beautiful girl he'd ever seen.

The girl was flattered by the attention from the charming, muscular teen, saying boys didn't usually take an interest in her.

Their first chat lasted six hours. Their daily conversations ran for three months and filled more than 300 screen pages.

As hours and hours of talking passed, flirting escalated to exchanging elaborate, invented sex stories.

When the intense online relationship was only days old, the pair exchanged virtual kisses and pledged their love to each other.

Soon the pedophile had the girl's mobile number but was careful never to part with his own contact details.

He pestered the girl more than 100 times for further photos of herself, with the requests becoming increasingly explicit.

When the girl refused or stalled, he said she had betrayed his trust. When she complied with the sick requests, he praised her and pledged undying love.

As the danger to the girl intensified, friends warned her the boyfriend she had never met could be an Internet pedophile.

But "John'' managed to persuade her that his accusers were flirts that he rejected online.

A new Internet character, Larry, was introduced as John's best friend from Sydney, and a story was concocted that eventually luredthe girl to meet Henderson.

The 14-year-old met the pedophile, posing as a fictional boyfriend's boss several times at a number of display homes where she was taken advantage of.

Caught up in Henderson's sick world, the young victim posted: "I don't like my thoughts any more.''

After tip-offs from the girl's concerned friends, police caught Henderson meeting the girl.

He is now serving a minimum of six years' jail - with no Internet access.

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Pedophiles Groom Parents Too

We’ve told you before in our Grooming Articles that pedophiles not only groom their victims, but the parents and entire communities as well. We’ve tried to convey how sick and twisted and evil these monsters really are. Well, here’s a recent letter posted by a well known pedophile who calls himself “Blue Heaven” (BH). It’s addressed to the parents of his “lgf” or ‘Little Girl Friend’.

BH tries to calm the parents concerns by saying, "I can only cheer from the sidelines and set a positive example for the kids when I can, but it is important to me to see them growing up right and I believe in what you’re doing. I know you have a great support system within your family already; just know I am more than willing to help out if ever I can." … Yea, he wants to help out. What he really wants is to help her out of her clothes.

He tells the parents that he has already developed a strong relationship with their daughter, but then tries to smooth it over by claiming to be like an older brother…

“I want you to know that I have always had the best intentions at heart, and I always will. I’ve become a protective older brother with her (sometimes over-protective), and I’ve become concerned about her success in life, I am also a real friend to her, and she’ll tell you the same things. In short she has become someone special to me and I enjoy helping her.” … Did you catch that part? -very special to him. Translation: He's sexually attracted to her and he wants her bad.

He then tries to explain why he wants to spend so much time alone with her. We of course know its because he sees her as a sexual object. But he is in the grooming mode and is attempting to charm her parents into letting him have her in his house ALONE with him and without her siblings around….

“I believe it is good for her to have one more person around to encourage her and I think sometimes she needs someone else to talk to. It’s also good for her to talk to an older friend (as in non-related) who has her best interests at heart.” …best interests?

“I want to always keep things out in the open” … No you don’t. You want to get this child alone in your house so that you can have her to yourself.

“I have told her that with your expressed permission she is welcome in my home. If you give the OK she may come over anytime to finish her homework, here where there are fewer distractions. I would make sure it gets completed and work with her should she need it. She is also welcomed to come over just to talk or if she just feels like getting out of the house.” … Oh, doesn’t that just sound so nice, and sweet, and innocent? NOT!

“I am not asking you for anything, I just want you to know that I’m very good to her and she is more than welcomed here.” … Translation: Don’t worry, I won’t hurt her much. At least not at first. Yes, I want to rape her, but I’ll wait and mess with her mind first. Then I'll force her to believe that it’s something that she really wants. That way when she gets too old for me, I can walk away from her, and move on to my next victim.

We wrote about BH before. He was trying to find a way to gain public acceptance. He wanted to fool everyone into believing that he was a “good” pedophile…

“If we adopt a non-threatening approach, and stay within the law. Then maybe we can gain just a little credibility with the public. If we build on this new image: "CL [Child Lover] in defense of those they love", then maybe we can begin a dialog...but as long as outing ourselves is societal suicide, then we can't do anything anyway.”
- Blue Heaven
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Don’t ever forget that pedophiles are child PREDATORS. They will attempt to manipulate everyone around them in order to gain access to their victims. Your job as parents and caregivers is to stop them. Don’t fall for their lies. Don’t let them lull you into a false sense of safety. Pedophiles are not safe. They do not care about the well being of children. All they care about is how to get their hands on their next victim.

How do you stop a child predator? Go to our grooming articles and get some really good info here.

Where or Where is Steven Bruce Greer?

New Address Update below...


This is Steven Greer. He's a child molester and pedophile. He raped 9 and 12 year old children. He's now out of jail and on the prowl. He doesn't have to stay away from children like most Registered Sex Offenders do. He's free to walk the streets and go to parks and schools and anywhere else there are children.

Steven knows we are watching him. He's running scared. He's moved 5 times in 11 weeks.

Take a good look at his picture. Help us keep an eye out for him. Scroll down and see a picture of how he might look if he gained some weight..


Where or where is Steven Greer? Well, right now he's living at:

5000 Doss RD Lot #1
Austin, TX 78734

70 Iron Horse, Lot 10
Hutto Texas, 78634

Steven's victims continue to suffer because of his abuse. Don't let another child fall into his hands.

Keep an eye out for Steven Greer. Keep children safe.

If you see Steven Greer, please contact us immediately!

Check back with us for updates on Greer's location.

Jack McClellan Portland Girl Love Web Site Up and Running

This is Jack McClellan

UDATE ON JACK 10-8-07: He's living at and/or using the address of the Transitions Projects Inc and Dr. Rodney Glisan Men's Shelter. The location is: 475 NW Glisan St, Portland, OR 97209-3713. He is also using this address for registration on his pedophile web site called Portland Girl Love.

I spoke with Transitions Projects Inc manager Fern this morning on the phone, and she told me that although she was aware that Jack was using their address for mail and messages, which is allowed, she was NOT aware that Jack is using their address for the registration of his Portland Girl Love web site. I provided her with the details via email and have not yet heard back about a decision on this matter.

He's sexually attracted to little girls as young as 3 years old. He wants to stalk these little girls. He wants to help other child predators find and stalk them too. He's got his old GL (Girl Love) site back up and bragging about it again.

His site is full of links- yes, we are notifying those sites that they are linked there, and many are now blocked. He even has his "GL Event Ratings Guide" complete with hearts...

Jack is a pedophile who wants to help other child predators find children. If you live in the Portland area, keep an eye out for Jack. He claims he sold his car, but he might still be driving it...

A Blue 1993 Ford Escort two-door with Washington license plate 915WEX.

Just keep looking over your shoulder Jack...

If you want to read more on Jack, go here.

Police Look for Girl and Her Abuser After Finding Explicit Sex Tape

Chester Stiles is now behind bars. Thanks to Henderson Nevada Police Officer Mike Dye. He pulled Stiles over for driving without any plates on his car.

Stiles was apparently tired of running and wanted to be caught. Hopefully he will spend the rest of his life behind bars, preferably with Bubba who I hear is currently looking for a new boyfriend to rape....

Have you seen this man?

Chester Arthur Stiles

This is the POS that was raping the little girl on the video...

UPDATE 9/29: The young girl who was seen being sexually assaulted in a homemade videotape has been found and is safe with relatives.

Police are now looking for 34 year old Chester Arthur Stiles. His last known address was in Las Vegas. If you've seen Chester, or if you know where he is, please contact the Nye County Sheriff's Office 775-751-7000

LAS VEGAS — Authorities in Nevada were trying Tuesday to find a girl believed to be 4 or 5 years old and a man seen performing explicit sexual acts on her in an amateur videotape that detectives were told was found in the desert.

"The problem is the unknowns," said Nye County sheriff's Detective David Boruchowitz, who said he hoped widespread national attention would identify the girl and the man.

"We have no idea where he's from, where she's from, and no idea who they are or where they are," Boruchowitz said in a telephone interview from the sheriff's office in Pahrump, 60 miles west of Las Vegas.

The tape, a little longer than 30 minutes, clearly shows the adult man performing criminal sexual acts that Boruchowitz said included rape, "everything else, and then some."

A 26-year-old Pahrump man, Darren Tuck, surrendered the tape to Nye County sheriff's investigators Sept. 8, after another man reported seeing it, Boruchowitz said.

Tuck told detectives he found the videotape in the desert outside Pahrump more than five months ago, although Boruchowitz said the tape didn't appear to have been exposed to weather or elements.

Boruchowitz said investigators don't think Tuck made the tape. Tuck was arrested Sept. 19 on charges of promoting child pornography and possession of child pornography, felonies. The top charge carries a possible sentence of up to life in prison.

Tuck was released without bail, pending arraignment Nov. 26 in Pahrump Justice Court, a court official said.

His lawyer did not immediately respond Tuesday to messages seeking comment.

"Our concern is if little girl is still in that situation," Boruchowitz said. "Our concern is to get her out of the nightmare that she's been living in." From FOX News

If you have any information, please contact the Nye County Sheriff's Office at 775-751-7000


HT goes to Bushwack

Vicitm of Pedophile Manipulation, or Selfish Parent? You Decide…

Warning: This one is going to piss you off…

LATEST UPDATE 9/27: A big thank you goes out to the person who turned in this pathetic excuse for a mother into Social Services. Boo hoo, Frianne is whining that she got turned in. She even tried to comment here but obviously didn't read our comment policy.


For the record: No, LOD, we are not Frianne. We read your GC site, but we are not Frianne. We don't sink to your level. We don't need to. You pedophiles post enough info online without our help.

We also did NOT turn in Frianne. Although we would have loved to, we do not know who she is. Thankfully, Social Services now does.

Frianne is a single mother who was dating a pedophile. She didn’t know this until her 10 year old daughter was raped by him. She’s confused and doesn’t know what to do because she says she’s in love with him- even though he raped her 10 year old daughter. So she’s gone over to a well known pedophile girllover message board and posted some questions and asked for help.

Here’s how Frianne described her situation two days ago…

"I am a 43 year old mother of 2 (girl 10 boy 15)... I met a guy who is 30 and we started dating (his idea). Well, to make a long story short, he molested my 10 year old daughter. He went to a therapist for help which ended up leading to his arrest. He is now waiting for his trial, where my daugher will have to testify against him. At first I was very angry and wanted nothing to do with him. But now I find that I am very much in love with him. I have forgiven him and still want to have a life with him."

She then begins to ask the pedophiles some questions. One of which is...

"How can you get someone to admit that they used you to get to your daughter. If that is what he did?"

Then she answered your own question by saying:

"He definitely did things to her against her will."

Anytime someone uses someone else against their will, it is abuse! If this same man "used you against your will" you would call it rape. Why then, don't you think the same way about your own daughter? Are you that blind to the abuse that was done? Are you really that selfish that you can only think of yourself and place your wants above the basic safety of your own daughter? Then she says...

"Luckily it was only two weekends and then she told me."

... so you think it's ok for him to rape your daughter as long as she tells you about it in a timely manner?

"My problem now (aside from my daughter) is how he really and truly feels about me."

... No, your problem is that this pedophile raped your daughter, and you're too selfish to give a damn. You are too concerned about your own selfish needs. Anyone who would even consider not turning this man over to the police is wrong. But for you to consider having a relationship with him after he abused and raped your daughter is criminal.

Just so you know, the pedophiles have their own advice…

" You said in an earlier thread that he had 'molested' her. You need to find out from her, with an open mind, whether she was entirely voluntary in her involvement in this situation, without any hint of coercion of any kind, or whether he in any way imposed his own wants onto her"… “Of course, you have to decide whether *you* can handle it or not if she *is* willing to be involved with him.” - Jensman

What?! Only a pedophile would think that a 10 year old girl would want to be raped by a 30 year old man. No Jensman, it cannot be consentual or voluntary. It’s called grooming and rape.

Baldur wants to blame the victim for the abuse:

"I keep in mind that your daughter may have been "educated" into being ashamed of her sexuality, and therefore she may have reported the incident as being unwelcome even if it was not at the time. Or, this man may have been too dense to understand that she was not interested. That is the only reason why I would even entertain the thought that a relationship with this man may be possible." - Baldur

Then Jensman goes on to tell Frianne what he thinks she should say to her 10 year old daughter…

"Brenda [or whatever her name is], you've told me that Bob [or whatever his name is] touched you when you didn't want him to. So I have to ask you this-- How would it make you feel if I kept seeing him? I still feel like I love him, and he says he loves me and is sorry for what he did." - Jensman

All I can say is, this just goes to show what a sick and twisted world we live in. Then people wonder why I do what I do. Go figure.

UPDATE (9/24)- Frianne feels that the fact that the man who raped her daughter was arrested is "terrible". She's hoping that he doesn't molest her daughter again and has even let him talk to her....

"I was talking to him on the phone and she heard his voice and now she just wants to talk to him. She was acting all goofy like she used to around him. They had a lot of fun playing together."

- Classic grooming behavior.

"I'm hoping he just crossed the line this time. It's hard making the decision to trust him not to do it again (although this is the second little girl that he has touched...But the other one may have been a willing partner, I don't know). I am letting my daughter call all the shots. It's totally up to her what happens with us."

She can't even see that he's a repeat offender- saying the previous victim "may have been a willing partner" is disgusting. Letting her "daughter call the shots" is not only wrong, but bad parenting as well. Her daughter was molested by this man! How on earth can she even consider having any type of contact with him?!!

Jack McClellan- Pedophile, Child Predator, Grooming

Grooming: What child predators do to manipulate their victims, the families, and entire communities.

Jack McClellan: He told the Oregonian newspaper he won’t take pictures of little girls anymore because now he "sees it from the parents' side."

Grooming: Charm, intimidation, or justification.

Predators refuse to honor boundaries set by society. When confronted, they will not only continue the abusive behavior, but they will go on the offensive and accuse you of harassment.

Jack McClellan: “I have never done anything illegal with a child or regarding a child.”

Grooming: Don’t be fooled by pedophile lies.

Jack claims to see pedophilia “from the parents' side." Well, Jack, just exactly how do you manage that? After years of producing a website that not only exploited small children, but showed other child predators how to find children, you think we believe you when you say you understand a parent’s point of view?

You’ve never done anything illegal regarding a child? You violated the restraining order placed on you and sat in the waiting area/lobby of the UCLA children’s day care center with a camera. After being arrested for that and being told by UCLA campus police not to return, what did you do? You went right back and got yourself arrested again at UCLA. I guess you don’t consider any of that illegal.

Stop trying to tell people what you think they want to hear. We see right through your pedophile lies.

Keep an eye out for Jack. He lives in his car, a Blue 1993 Ford Escort two-door with Washington license plate 915WEX.



To read more on how child predators groom and manipulate those around them, go to our grooming articles here.

Steven Bruce Greer- Convicted Child Sex Offender On the Move Again

Steven is living in Hutto, Texas without any restrictions

UPDATE: This pedophile/child molester just moved again! That's 5 times in 11 weeks! His new address is:

70 Iron Horse, Lot 10
Hutto Texas, 78634

Steve pleaded guilty as part of a plea bargain for lesser sentence. He was "DISCHARGED" from prison on June 25th, 2007 after serving his full 9 year prison term, with his debt to society considered PAID. He is not on parole or probation. He must re register every 90 days as a sex offender for the rest of his life. However he is free to walk your streets, parks, shopping malls, school campuses or become your next boyfriend, husband and daddy to your children. He is free to befriend your children He is not on Parole, and NOBODY is watching him!!!

His crimes?

Aggravated Sexual Assault- 9 year old boy

Indecency w/child Sexual Contact - 9 year old girl and 12 year old girl

You can verify this information on any Web Site below:

http://www.familywatchdog.us/ https://records.txdps.state.tx.us/ http://www.nsopr.gov/