Check List: How to Spot a Child Predator or Child Molester

You need to be aware of the following...

~ A person who is very helpful or alluring

~ A person who exhibits peer-like play

~ A person who has no adult friends and will spend time with children rather than adults

~ A person who plays tickling games and roughhouses/dog piles with kids

~ A person who is immediately accepted into the family

~ A person who refuses to honor boundaries set by you or by society in general

These are all signs of grooming that child predators will use on you, your family, and on entire communities. There is no way to know for sure if someone is a child molester until they have violated a child. Therefore, you cannot accuse someone based on this information. Instead, you can use this as a tool to screen out high risk people, and to keep them away from your children.

A person who is very helpful or alluring:

By alluring we mean they are so enticing, flattering, and well loved, that it's like a seduction. They suck you in and manipulate you into unconditional trust without you even realizing it.

This is someone who offers help without asking for anything in return. They already have a price in mind- your child. Inside, they hate you. But on the outside, they become whatever it is you want or need. They want you to like them and trust them so that when they rape your child, you won’t suspect a thing.

A person who exhibits peer-like play:

Ever hear someone described as “just another big kid”? That’s fine, as long as they are able to switch back to an adult rather than staying in the “kid” mode continuously. Child molesters think of children as their peers. They see them in terms of sexual attraction, not cuteness.

A person who has no adult friends and will spend time with children rather than adults:

We all have friends and even acquaintances that we talk with on a regular basis. Child predators devote all of their time to children. Their entire lives revolve around children. They continue babysitting, and often prefer activities and jobs that involve children like mentoring for children’s organizations, coaching, teaching, camp counselors, etc. They will often choose these activities over socializing with their adult peers. There's nothing wrong with jobs and activities that revolve around children, but when an adult chooses children over nearly all adult activities, they are high risk.

For example, there is a party at a friends house. "Bob" offers to watch the children for everyone, rather than attend the party. He has a good excuse of course, but he always seems to spend his time with children rather than adults.

A person who plays tickling games and roughhouses/dog piles with kids:

When interviewed, convicted child molesters describe how they use tickling to desensitize children to sexual touch, and to push the boundaries of acceptable behavior in front of the parents. Is it alright for Grandpa to tickle his grandchild and laugh with him/her? Yes, of course it is. But it’s not appropriate for a grown man or woman to “dog pile” with several young children. It’s also not appropriate for an adult to get physically personal with your children by tickling and touching.

A person who is immediately accepted into the family:

Being accepted into a family situation should take time and trust. Child predators are skilled at manipulating adults into accepting them. Stop and take a look at any situation where a stranger, who approaches your family or child, immediately gains your complete trust and acceptance.

A person who refuses to honor boundaries set by you or by society in general:

He might touch children’s bottoms when pushing them on the swings, or tickle and touch inappropriately. He might find ways to be alone with your child for long periods of time. He might give your child gifts and convince your child that they need to spend more time alone together.

Anyone who crosses the line, and does something to make you or your child uncomfortable, should be setting off alarms. He will use excuses that make him appear to be helping your child, or concerned for your child. Excuses such as helping with homework, or practicing baseball, etc.

Often when confronted, the predator will go on the attack and be offended that you accused him. He may accuse you of being inappropriate. Then he will continue the abuse.

Child molestation has reached epidemic proportions. 25-33% of children continue to be molested. 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before their 18th birthdays. What we are doing now, is not working. It’s time to change that. The time for looking the other way has come to an end.

Arm yourself with information so that you can help to stop the child predators from getting their hands on another victim. Remember, 95% of all child molestation is done by someone the child and/or family knows, not by strangers. Child predators do not want you to know what they do and how they manipulate you into trusting them. Don’t let that happen. Do something to stop it. Do something to make a difference and to keep our children safe.

Go read all of our grooming articles here

Rafael Valadez, a Serial Child Molesting Suspect

Police in Ontario, CA have been trying to convict Rafael Valadez of child molestation since 1993. Unfortunately, Valadez’s victims are very young- only 6 to 9 years old. That makes it difficult to convict him based on the testimony of the victims.

Police call him a serial child molester, and they say he's been in court for the same thing in 2005 and 2006.

So far police have identified 6 different victims, going back to 1993. The police say they know there are more victims out there, and they urge everyone to take a good look at Valadez’s picture. If you have any information, or think you know of more victims, please call Ontario Police Detective Naanjo at (909) 395-2764 source

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Police describe Valadez as befriending the families, and then moving in with them to gain access to the children.

Classic grooming behavior.

Valadez threatens to kill the victims if they tell.

Classic grooming behavior.

He always molests children in a specific age range.

Classic grooming behavior.

As we've said before, child molesters work very hard to make you like them because they know that it will make it difficult for you to believe they are molesting or raping your child. Make no mistake about it, they are predators who are after our children. You can do something to stop them and protect your children. Go read our Grooming Articles and arm yourself with the knowledge about how these predators work to fool parents and entire communities in order to get their hands on kids.

The time for looking the other way has come to an end. It's time to do something to stop these monsters and to protect our children.

Pedophiles Encouraged to “Infiltrate” the Teaching Profession

Child predators and pedophiles have always been in all areas of life, and in every profession. They often get jobs that involve children. I found a post at a pedophile message board that openly encourages these child predators to "infiltrate the teaching profession" because "This is where the poisoning is at its most insidious, and this is where an antidote of true childlove is most effective."

That’s right folks, the pedophiles and child molesters are organizing and instructing each other on how to become teachers so they can gain access to our kids. They feel it is their “duty to help these kids”.

Pedophiles and child molesters are finding ways to “legitimately” spend time with small children. Alone. They are now plotting ways to overtake society without revealing themselves.

Their slogan? "You'll be helping the kids, helping our cause, and enriching your life."

Help? Let’s just stop and take a look at what pedophiles and child molesters think “helping” kids is…

LOD says, "I just want to make a little girl happy and have a loving relationship with her. That's all. Now is that so wrong?"

While Blue Heaven says, “We're good people trying to do good things.” He talks about his “girlfriend” and says, “I love this girl, and I like to spend time with HER not her attention hogging sister. We broke the rules, though. We were *gasp* alone…. I realized the mother sees me for what I am.”

On the subject of “Babies and nonconsensual touching”, hayaku says, “fondling it or giving a prostate massage would not [count as molesting] so long as it was to calm and please it.” - I just love how he refers to a baby as “it”. This is just another example of how a child molester justfies anally molesting a child.

Joey Bishop doesn't water it down. He says, "My AoA is a bit lower than yours(8 to 12), and yeah, when I see a hot girl of that age, I do think "she's hot".

In case you doubt the sexual desire of pedophiles, weasel makes it disgustingly clear in a post titled, "Hunting boys down"…

“I was entranced. Cute little, red, round butt, bustling down the street, and a sweet head of blond hair, to top it off... I saw his butt close-up. His red nylon pants were perfectly contoured to his hot little body, as was his black, long sleeve, stretch polyester shirt.”

Now, back to the original issue, child predators infiltrating the teaching profession…

LGsouL says, "This is a good frontier on which to help kids and spread our cause without revealing ourselves for the better of society as a whole. I am aiming for my 60 credits now. I should be done by next year some time WOOHOO I cannot wait!"

gl4ever agrees, and even posts about being accused of "inappropriate touching" where he claims to have only touched a little girls "lower tummy".

Wake up people! Pedophiles and child molesters are in our schools. They are in our children’s organizations. They are our neighbors, coaches, counselors, pastors, mentors, uncles, brothers, parents, and friends. In other words, they are anyone and everyone, and they are everywhere.

Do not allow your child to be alone with an adult. Do not ignore your instincts. If you see or suspect suspicious behavior, put a stop to it and report it.

Read our Grooming Articles Here, and keep your kids safe.

Wanted: Ricardo Rosales for Molesting his 13-year-old Niece

Round Rock, Texas: Police said they need the publics help to find a man accused of molesting his niece.

Police said Ricardo Rosales, 34, broke into his next-door relatives' home in mid-November and molested his 13-year-old niece.

Rosales is a Mexican national, and police think he's hiding with friends near his former residence on Wheless Drive in Northeast Austin.

He's 5 feet 4 inches tall and weighs about 135 pounds. When last seen, he had short, black hair and a goatee.

If you have any information about Rosales, please contact the Round Rock Police Department at (512) 218-5500.

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New Bill would give molesters life on 2nd offense

TALLAHASSEE, Fla. (AP) - A legislative panel stood and applauded the father of 9-year-old-murder victim Jessica Lunsford on Tuesday before approving a bill he said would have prevented her death.

Mark Lunsford, sometimes pausing to choke back tears, spoke on behalf of the measure (HB 85) that would send child molesters 18 years or older to prison for life if convicted more than once of molesting a child under 12.

"If John Evander Couey would have got life for his second offense, I wouldn't have spent Christmas alone," Lunsford said.

Couey, 49, was sentenced to death last year for kidnapping Lunsford's daughter, raping her and burying her alive in his yard. Couey, already a convicted sex offender, took the girl in February 2005 from her bedroom to his nearby trailer in Homasassa. Her body was found some three weeks later in a grave about 150 yards from her home in the Citrus County community.

The bill unanimously cleared the House Budget and Policy Council after lawmakers and the audience gave Lunsford a standing ovation. It next will go to the House floor after the Legislature convenes its regular annual session in March. An identical

Senate bill (SB 496) has not yet had a committee hearing. The measure adds the harsher penalty to the Jessica Lunsford Act lawmakers passed in 2005.

It includes tougher penalties for sex crimes against children and requires lifetime electronic monitoring for sex offenders who target children once released from prison. Another provision requires fingerprinting and background checks for contractors, vendors, sports referees and others who regularly go onto school property. Those convicted of certain crimes are barred from schools and their grounds.

The existing law already requires a minimum sentence of 25 years in prison and permits a maximum of life for a first or subsequent offense for intentionally touching the breasts, general area of buttocks of a child in a lewd or lascivious manner.

Lunsford said many victims are psychologically scarred by such crimes.

"Which child has it the worst, one that survives or the one that dies?" he said. "No one will every hurt my daughter again. ... What about these kids who survive?" source

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This is something that we need to do nation wide. Child molesters need tougher punishments in order to protect children. It's time to stop giving them an easy ride and to start locking them up for good.